
Ben Zander igniting possibility
In an earlier post, I shared the anecdotal white-paper ceremony that Ben Zander introduced to elicit input and feedback from his orhestra.
Another useful ceremony he introduced is to respond with “How fascinating” to a mistake. To make a mistake is a fascinating opportunity to learn. When you are doing things right, you are often not conscious of why it is right, or what you do to get it right. When you make a mistake, there is a form of cognitive dissonance which presents an opportunity to learn. You then engage in a conscious act of appreciation of the problem and solution finding, as well as applying the solution. Often the solution is refined in a series of trial-and-error try-outs. Depending on the type of situation or the frequency of the action, the solution may then become part of the unconscious acting again, such as the way to play a passage in a music performance in a specific way. But chances are good that you will be mindful of that passage in a different way until you can trust that you will be able to do it the right way every time.
I recently experienced a “How fascinating” moment. I have not visited a cousin of mine for some time, and when driving to visit her last year I took the wrong road twice – each time I was confronted with the need to take cognisance of the surrounding clues so that she could direct me to the right way over the phone. Next time I knew what cues signalled that I was on the wrong way (again), but more importantly I was also consciously aware of the cues that would tell me where to turn and where to go. If I did by chance find the place a year ago the first time, I am not sure that I would have been able to do it again this year. Now I will be able to find it every time – except if the significant cues in the surroundings change…
Next time you get stuck, counter the potential frustration, potential embarassment, self-critique for stupidity or getting into defensive mode by saying - “How fascinating”.
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